Toddler tantrums – How to cope when your child acts like a monster.

Toddler Tantrums

We have all been there, when you are out with your toddler doing a bit of shopping and your toddler then thinks it’s a good idea to put all the cereals in the shopping trolly. Then you make the big mistake of saying ‘No we cant have that’, then suddenly silence..then your toddler lets out a loud scream in the middle of the shop. People look around to see, maybe someone is doing harm to your child. Only to find out its just a toddler throwing a tantrum. To strangers, it appears as if you have no control over your child but just remember, most of the people who feel that way are not parents. Other parents can only watch with sympathy, having been there themselves.

For most parents this kind of scenario are all too common. Trust me I have been through many of such interesting scenes, than I care to count. Being a parent has taught me a couple things over the years & ways to deal with this difficult time in a toddlers development.

Detailed below are steps to dealing with toddler tantrums & techniques which will empower you as a parent & make sure you gain the upper arm.

Let me assure you, there is nothing to be ashamed of when your toddler throws a tantrum. It doesnt mean you are a bad parent. This is just a phase every toddler all over the world goes through, for some its much wide scale & last’s beyond the toddler years. For others it’s just a minor phase. So get this one thing, dont doubt your parenting skills for one second. Be more confident, there is definately a way out of all this.

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The first important thing you must to do to quell toddler tantrums, is to stop the tantrum before it boils over. So when you get a sense that your toddler is about to throw a tantrum, nip it in the bud & put your foot down, before it escalates to something you dont have any control of anymore. A typical example I experience is when, let says I want to spend some quality time with my toddler & I’m taking him to the playground. Then he slowly starts creating a tantrum on the way to the playground. What you do is stop the car & look your toddler in the eye & let them know if they continue with their behavior you are not going anywhere. If they still carry on & throw a tantrum, turn around & drive back home & cancel the outting, this lets them know that you are in charge. So always learn to spot the problem,before it boils over.

Establish a routine – Toddlers thrive on routine, because knowing what to expect is comforting to them. Big activities like meals and naps should happen at about the same time each day. Be sure that your child is getting some interaction with other children, too. Playgroups or preschool are a big help, because your child learns that rules apply to everyone.
Give them some control – Your child will respond positively to the opportunity to make some choices. Make them simple; such as choosing between cereal and a waffle for breakfast. The more you can create situations where your child feels in control, the less they’ll resist you.

Remember that toddler tantrums are a phase, depending on your child’s temperament, you may not be able to avoid. However, your response to them will, in part, determine how long you have to deal with them. Don’t give in to your toddler’s demands – that’s just teaching them that tantrums work!

Instead, redirect their behavior and don’t lose your cool. If you create situations that avoid tantrums, and you handle them effectively when they do occur, you can rest assured that your child will outgrow them. Be loving yet firm, create trusting interactions between you and your toddler, and get down on the floor and play. These three steps will move you through tantrums with peace and joy.
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